On Being a Mother and a Writer

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

When I sit down to write, there is always something else that needs to be done, to be washed, or to be loved. I should be clear that in my world, being a mother comes light years ahead of being a writer. No matter how much I want to sit down and type my little heart out, no matter how loud my characters clammer to get out, I am a Mom first. So, if that means constantly getting up to chase my daughter around the house while she squeals in delight, so be it. If that means staying up untill one in the morning writing, only to have that baby wake up as I am getting in bed? Well, that is my life. And really, I am in love with my life. It isn't perfect by any means, but I think that is one of the reasons it works so well for me. Perfect would be just a little bit boring. It is true that I would like to be able to sit down and write when I want to, to focus on my project the moment inspiration strikes. But, I will work with the time that I have and make the best of it.

The last couple of weeks, it has been difficult to find time to write. I squeeze in a few hundred words here and there, but not the word counts I would like to be achieving. When things slowed down a little on the home front, it was hard to get back into my writing process. It was a struggle, and I became very frustrated. Thankfully, some friends from the HP Writers' Group on Facebook, had some wonderful suggestions.  (Thank you guys!) I ended up turning on the play list for my book, and cleaning the house. Not only was I taking charge of something that I could control (cleaning up behind my daughter), my Muses woke up while listening to the music. I planned out a painting I want to do and VOILA! I was ready to write. Last night I got a good bit written, and finally went to sleep content. I felt like I was back on the road to finishing my book.

Watch out ePub world! Here I come.

* I know that this is not related to my book, or being a mother, or writing (Or maybe it is.), but I wanted to take a moment to say how much my heart hurts for the people of Japan, and their loved ones spread around the world. There is so much fear and pain in that region, it is staggering. My most sincere hope is that they are able to cool the nuclear plants and stop the spread of radiation. They do not need any more disasters to deal with at this time. If you or anyone you know has relatives or friends in Japan, I hope that they are unharmed, and you are able to make contact with them soon.


  1. Sometimes the best thing a writer can do is walk away from the computer. Glad you got your muse singing again, Nichole

  2. Very well put, Nichole! I am glad you were able find your characters again. I can't wait to read your book.

  3. I completely understand! ;) Being a mom is wonderful, and so is being a writer. I'm thankful that I have a loving family to support me, and am pursuing my dream of writing (even if that means I don't sleep enough and drink waaaay to much coffee). :)

  4. One day you will look back and write all about chasing a toddler around the house and your muse will sing with much joy.

  5. I find I get moat of my writing whilst on night duty at the hospital. My best work is usually between 2 and 4 in the morning when the patient is settled (I work in ICU) and nothing else is going on. Can't believe I wrote an entire novel that way. Two kids at home and me being the total Man package (ie - a daddy that's useful - lol) means that I rarely can get good writing done at home. But I balance it - somehow.


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